I am confident. I am
strong. I have self-worth, self-respect, dignity and integrity. I respect and value
others.
And yes, I wear yoga pants.
In the last year, I balanced being an entrepreneur and
President of an inspirational gift and lifestyle company, motivational speaker,
trained for 100 mile Ultra marathon and completed it, fundraised for the race
(raised over $11,000 for the Family Scholar House), Chaired the Taste of St.
Raphael, coached our son’s basketball team, a husband who travels the world,
two very active boys in school and lots of extracurricular activities…oh and
let’s not forget our 100 pound dogJ
On any given moment, you could find me in anything from a
business suit, business casual, work-out gear and yes, even yoga pants.
Please do not mistake my work-out clothes or yoga pants for
lack of caring or lack of self-respect.
I completely agree about dressing appropriately for the
occasion; business meetings, interviews, nice restaurants, Church, family
gatherings, holidays, a night-out. Your
attire shows respect for the occasion and the people involved with it. First impressions and perceptions are a
reality; therefore, making your clothing choices extremely important for some
of the above occasions.
However, a run to the grocery store in work-out clothes does
not constitute a lack of self-respect or respect for others. It’s called having a full schedule, multi-tasking
and balancing.
Furthermore, for some occasions a woman dressing up can look
like she is trying too hard. A woman trying
too hard is never attractive. Sometimes
less is more.
When I see a woman in work-out clothes, I think, “good for
you for taking care of yourself”. I see strength.
When I see a woman without make-up, I see a confident, beautiful, strong
woman. For most in casual clothes, it is
not that comfort is taking over; it is a
matter of scheduling. Even if it is for
comfort, provided the attire is appropriate for the occasion, if it is going to
make the person happier, go for it. I
would much rather be around a happy, pleasant person even if she is in flats as
opposed to heels.
I try not to judge. For
all women who feel they cannot leave the house without make-up to run an errand,
if you have the time and it makes you feel good, do it (to each her own). Personally, I do not need make-up or certain
clothes to feel beautiful. I am
confident in my own skin. Clothes certainly do not give me self-respect or give
me the ability to show respect.
I have seen women and men dressed to the nines that have
been disrespectful to others and I have seen homeless people in rags show
respect and love. I am who I am no
matter the clothes I don.
I know a woman who has been at the hospital for days taking
care of her child going through chemo who I admire deeply. This woman is wearing a sweater and yoga
pants and after she has spent a day at the hospital with her son in comfortable
clothes, she runs to the grocery to get dinner for her family at home and runs
by the Mall to pick up a new pair of navy pants for her other son to wear
school. He had grown out of his other
pants. This woman has an amazing work
ethic, self-respect, dignity, worth and a compassionate heart. I admire her.
I know a woman who has been volunteering her time and working
outside to help build a home for a family in need. This woman is wearing sweatpants and a
t-shirt (and yes, they are even soiled after her hard days work). After her full days work to help a family in
need, she runs to the grocery. I admire
this strong, giving woman.
I know a woman who cleans homes for a living. She is in sweatpants and a sweatshirt. After she works her tail off, she races to
pick up her kids from school and shuttles them to sports practices and runs by
the grocery. I admire this hard working woman.
Some wear business suits Monday-Friday and welcome the
opportunity to dress casual. In fact, my
husband is one of those men who travels the world and routinely interfaces with
corporate leadership. On the weekends,
he welcomes the chance to turn his hat around backwards, wear comfy clothes and
drive his truck.
We are grounded, down-to-earth, strong individuals who do
not feel the need to impress the people at the grocery store.
We try and raise our children the best we can. We believe each of them is unique and has
their own special gifts. Our hope is
that our children realize their power from within, discover their gifts and share
them with others, affecting society in a positive way. Hard Work is paramount to success. Balance. Work, Rest, Play. Give your best; but you do not need to strive
for perfection. Don’t take yourself too
seriously. Our house is not perfect. We work hard. We laugh. If we fall, we get
back up. Get your hands dirty.
Just as we try and teach our children balance in life and
making good decisions, so it is with attire…to know the right times to wear the
right things.
I can get dressed up with the best and hold my own; but, I
can also get down and dirty in the trenches.
Life is a balancing act.
Next time you see a woman at the grocery store in yoga pants,
you may just want to think twice about who she is…You never know, you may have
just come across Wonder Woman.